I’ve said before, I monitor my kids’ social media. I don’t just look at their account to see what they’re posting, I log into their account to see what they are chatting about, and what their friends are posting. I’ve been told (by my kids) that I’m a stalker. I tell them “No, I’m your Mom”.
The girl is now 11, in the 6th grade, and I look at her Instagram often. It’s the only social media she has (no Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, or anything else). And the more I look at it, the more I am grateful that she still acts like an 11-year-old, and not 11-going-on-17. I’ve seen girls in short shorts (Daisy Dukes for us 80’s kids), girls showing cleavage, girls making obscene gestures, girls talking about who they “like” this week, and who they are dating.
I’m sorry, but The Girl will NOT be wearing shorts where the pockets are longer than the shorts themselves, nor will she show cleavage (whether she has any to show, or not). She knows better to post a photo of herself making an obscene gesture, because Mom WILL see it, make her take it down, AND ground her. And I am SO glad that the only “crush” she has is on a young man from Northern Ireland, who happens to be a member of a very popular boy band. As far as she is concerned, most of the local boys have cooties, and I’d like to keep her thinking that way for awhile.
When did these little girls start growing up so fast? Why, at 11, is it OK for them to be “sexy”? They are still little girls who should act like it, and dress like it. Yes, they are reaching that age where they are going to start becoming interested in boys, but when did it become acceptable for them to date, and jump form “boyfriend” to “boyfriend” each week? When did it become acceptable for them to dress as if they are 21 instead of 11?
I know it may not make her the most popular girl in school, but I hope my daughter stays 11 until she turns 12. She’s got plenty of years ahead of her to be older. Let’s embrace and rejoice in the childhood they have, while they have it, and not rush them into acting like little adults….because they’re not.
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